i wrote this cause i owe my father my life…


 

There are lots of things that annoying me about my father. For example, in the past he was so authoritarian (he still is sometimes), he wants us to do what he says. He always have to be the one who wrap up the conversation, so whatever we say become less important compare to what he said. He’s advising people in prayer, he say things over and over again. Basically he love to talk, but for me he talk too much. Despite of those demeanors,  there are 3 things I want to imitate from Daddy (that’s how we called him):

1. Pray..pray..pray. In any situation, good times or bad times, in the house or in the public place, near or far (on the phone too), he always pray. When I was a teenager, I feel boring (ashamed sometimes) with this ritual, because my father always wants us to pray together and when he pray his voice is so loud. Imagine in a restaurant with many people there, but he always said never ashamed of what we believe. Now as i have my own family, i realize  how true it was, i can’t even do one thing right without go to God and consult from Him. My daddy taught me to rely on God.

2. Education is VERY important. I am glad to have a father who has a deep conviction about education. He’s not only pray and push his kids to finish college, but he himself gave us example to never stop learning. I remember he took law as a major in a university many years ago, even though he never finish it but it’s a great experience for him. After retired from his previous  job, he works as a lecturer in a banking academy in Jakarta. I can finished my master degree not because i am so smart and motivated but because my dad always encourage and support me.

3. Saving!!! maybe because he used to work in a bank so he know what’s the meaning of saving or investing. My siblings and I would never go study abroad if my dad didn’t save his money for that. When other people still in la..la.. land, he already invest his money in the insurance. He never go crazy spending money for pleasure even if he can effort it, but he put it into saving. I remember when we were small we went to eat in a restaurant, 2 kids must share 1 plate of food. He never gave us much money for allowance. It was upsetting at the time, but now i understand the meaning.

My dad came from a simple if not poor family, He’s working so hard to make it as he is today. He truly start from the bottom and make it to the top. It was not easy to working full-time and raise up 6 kids at the same time (of course my mom played an important role here), but I really believed he’s success because of these 3 convictions. I can’t imagine  stand in his shoes and stay strong like him. But everybody has their own path. I pray that I can inherit some of his best trait to help me to go through mine. I love you Dad, Thanks a million!

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2 thoughts on “i wrote this cause i owe my father my life…

  1. Those are some crucial life lessons your father has thought you! My father has his flaws as well; he thinks he knows everything, he always has to be right and he has to be the one who says the last words but despite all those he did thought me very important lessons… We’re luck we have them! 🙂

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