Me….. last month, even 2 weeks ago, but today I found it Challenging with the capital C . Just this past week I faced 2 problems about relationship. One is my sister with her kids. Man! isn’t that the closest relationship on earth? mother and child, it should be come naturally, yes but they seems to repeat the same mistake over and over again, she got so frustated with them. I kind of feel for her because her husband is working out-of-town, and come home once awhile, is not easy at all to handle 3 kids, 2 boys and a girl. The boys gave her so much trouble, hardly study, play at friend’s house all day, come home really late, the house is always messy, etc. I will be smoking if i am her. I hope and pray things will get better soon.
The second one is between two friends of mine. They are in-laws, their husband are brothers. Surely they are different because they came from a different background, etnics group, but they live closed to each other ever since they were married. Maybe that’s the reason, when you live too close friction easily sparkle. Little thing about her daughter doing this and her daughter saying that caused this 2 moms hold grudges toward one another. And even though they are old enough to talk maturely they were not, instead bitterness had rooted in their heart. On the top of that, the husbands didn’t give much of a help either. I feel bad for them, i didn’t hope they will become best friend but at least they don’t get mad to each other like that.
Should I share to you about husband and wife relationship? I was quite surprised because even a couple like my parents whose been married for 40 years still argue with one another. I didn’t try to open their secret here, in a way I feel it’s funny, but feel bad at the same time because my dad was just joking about something that actually my mom is very sensitive about. suddenly mom cried and pour out all the hurt inside of her and my dad went very quiet. I end up counseled them, told my dad to listen to mom by looking at her eyes when she’s talking, not while reading newspaper or watch TV.
I believe a relationship can work when both people play their part. I remember try to make friend with one of the girl in church. At first she didn’t really care, I invited her for dinner, called her to study together, she did came but she never initiate. It take s a long time before she really understood and return my friendship. Now even though we’re far apart she always remember to e-mail me. Relationship must be woven by 2 people whether is between mother and child, 2 friends, husband and wives, 2 brothers or any kind. Sometimes one person must take a bigger role at first, but in the long run, if the other did not respond and play her/his part, it will be wither.
Even a great relationship can be broken or falling apart. That’s why there are divorces. Husband and wife who were once so in love to one another turned to hate one another. Nowadays people believe and depend so much on the thing called “chemistry” I am not against this, it does feel good when you have it, but we’re all created not with the same quality, so there will be people who are totally different from us, and it’s hard to get along. We have choices, either to give up or as we realize our differences, we work on how to win over him/her and grow in our relationship. Yes relationship is not easy, but we can make it, especially in the family!